130: How to Break Trauma Bonds and Create Secure Love | Nima Rahmany
A Simple Therapy Podcast:
Honest Conversations on Therapy, Mental Health, Healing and Self-Growth.
In this episode of A Simple Therapy Podcast, Sindee Gozansky sits down with Nima Rahmany to explore how to break trauma bonds, heal codependency, and create secure love. Together, they unpack the roots of relationship triggers, the anxious-avoidant dynamic, the often-overlooked fawn response, and how unresolved trauma shapes adult relationships. Nima shares his personal healing journey and explains what it really means to become trigger-proof—not avoiding triggers, but learning to regulate, repair, and respond differently. This conversation is especially valuable for therapists and anyone working to heal attachment wounds, stop toxic relationship patterns, and build emotionally safe, secure connection.
00:49 – Meet Nima Rahmany
05:03 – How a Trauma Bond Begins: The Co-Rescuing Operation
10:45 – The Drama Triangle and the Anxious-Avoidant Trap
15:00 – A Note for Therapists Who Won’t Touch It
20:48 – The Fawn Response: The Most Insidious Attachment Strategy
22:43 – The Villain’s Journey and Integrating Shame
25:54 – Writing the Book for His Son
28:00 – Trauma Is Not What Happened—It’s What Happens Inside
31:17 – Triggers as Portals: The Trigger-Proof Model
32:56 – What to Do If You’re Stuck in Your Relationship
36:27 – Find a Guide Who’s Living It
40:22 – Connect With Nima at becometriggerproof.com
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