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Buying Tomatoes and Relationships

What could buying tomatoes and relationships have to do with each other? Well, recently it taught me a lesson in my own marriage that I want to share with you. As you know, I take relationships seriously in my personal and professional life—I’m in one with my husband and, as a therapist and coach, I… Continue reading Buying Tomatoes and Relationships

It’s wedding season! What kind of wedding guest will you be?

I recently attended an amazing Hindu-Jewish wedding in Chicago. It was beautiful the way all weddings are, but even more spectacular to the senses, starting with the elaborate traditional Indian clothes worn by the bride’s family and guests. The women dressed in brilliantly colored, flowing sarees embellished with gold, lace and jewels; intricate henna designs… Continue reading It’s wedding season! What kind of wedding guest will you be?

Girlfriends and Hardware Stories: 2 Keys to Improving Your Relationship

As women, we long so much to connect with our partners, to have those deep conversations with our husbands and boyfriends that feel richly emotional, raw and vulnerable. Like the talks you have with your girlfriends! And if you don’t have a girlfriend who can hold this kind of space for you, you need to… Continue reading Girlfriends and Hardware Stories: 2 Keys to Improving Your Relationship

Men really want to make their women happy

I’m going to make a bold statement. Every man wants to make his wife or female partner happy. And if he can’t do it, he gives up trying. You know what that giving up looks like—shutting down, ignoring you, checking out with his computer or phone. But here’s the thing. We women stop our men… Continue reading Men really want to make their women happy

Why do women express anger as part of the pain of being sexually harassed?

To begin, the fact that we even ask this question underscores a social norm that women aren’t supposed to get angry or else she may be seen as a “choose your expletive.” Anger is viewed as an unacceptable emotion for a woman to express and so the angry, hurt woman (yes, she’s hurt, not just… Continue reading Why do women express anger as part of the pain of being sexually harassed?

Why men can feel isolated in relationships

There's a social construct that men fix things, are do-ers, and take a pragmatic approach when obstacles arise. Problems are to be analyzed and solved. In relationships, this often works, for a while. An attentive husband/partner may say: "What can I do to help? Tell me what's wrong? Have you thought about trying this instead?"… Continue reading Why men can feel isolated in relationships

What You Need to Know to Understand and Reduce Mental Health Stigma

In honor of World Mental Health Day 2016, I want to address the important issue of stigma and mental illness. Recent statistics indicate that approximately 1 in 5 adults in the U.S. will experience mental illness in a given year. Suicide rates continue to climb, with suicide being the 10th leading cause of death in the U.S., equivalent… Continue reading What You Need to Know to Understand and Reduce Mental Health Stigma

7 Ways to be More Confident in Relationships

With all the dating options today, more people are searching for their "person" online and becoming more adept at taking risks of presenting themselves through their profiles, photos, texts and other social media. When electronic contact turns into real life, anticipation and nervous excitement (okay, anxiety) are expected companions on the first few dates. But… Continue reading 7 Ways to be More Confident in Relationships

The Sorry Trap – How To Stop Apologizing So Much

Do you say “I’m sorry” a lot? Or maybe you’ve talked with someone who says “I’m sorry” constantly, as a regular pattern of speech, and you felt a bit annoyed? Even when there seems to be no mistake or reason, no rudeness or intrusion, no accidental fall or spill—despite lack of any cause, “sorry” becomes… Continue reading The Sorry Trap – How To Stop Apologizing So Much