Buying Tomatoes and Relationships

What could buying tomatoes and relationships have to do with each other? Well, recently it taught me a lesson in my own marriage that I want to share with you. As you know, I take relationships seriously in my personal and professional life—I’m in one with my husband and, as a therapist and coach, I… Continue reading Buying Tomatoes and Relationships

It’s wedding season! What kind of wedding guest will you be?

I recently attended an amazing Hindu-Jewish wedding in Chicago. It was beautiful the way all weddings are, but even more spectacular to the senses, starting with the elaborate traditional Indian clothes worn by the bride’s family and guests. The women dressed in brilliantly colored, flowing sarees embellished with gold, lace and jewels; intricate henna designs… Continue reading It’s wedding season! What kind of wedding guest will you be?

Girlfriends and Hardware Stories: 2 Keys to Improving Your Relationship

As women, we long so much to connect with our partners, to have those deep conversations with our husbands and boyfriends that feel richly emotional, raw and vulnerable. Like the talks you have with your girlfriends! And if you don’t have a girlfriend who can hold this kind of space for you, you need to… Continue reading Girlfriends and Hardware Stories: 2 Keys to Improving Your Relationship

Men really want to make their women happy

I’m going to make a bold statement. Every man wants to make his wife or female partner happy. And if he can’t do it, he gives up trying. You know what that giving up looks like—shutting down, ignoring you, checking out with his computer or phone. But here’s the thing. We women stop our men… Continue reading Men really want to make their women happy

Why men can feel isolated in relationships

There's a social construct that men fix things, are do-ers, and take a pragmatic approach when obstacles arise. Problems are to be analyzed and solved. In relationships, this often works, for a while. An attentive husband/partner may say: "What can I do to help? Tell me what's wrong? Have you thought about trying this instead?"… Continue reading Why men can feel isolated in relationships

7 Ways to be More Confident in Relationships

With all the dating options today, more people are searching for their "person" online and becoming more adept at taking risks of presenting themselves through their profiles, photos, texts and other social media. When electronic contact turns into real life, anticipation and nervous excitement (okay, anxiety) are expected companions on the first few dates. But… Continue reading 7 Ways to be More Confident in Relationships

Loving an Addict in Recovery – 5 Ways to Rebuild Your Relationship

Being in a relationship comes with all kinds of challenges. We are constantly hearing about how to build intimacy, improve communication, share responsibility, create friendships, manage finances, raise children and so on. But for couples where one partner is in recovery from addiction, these how-to ideas often fall short. When you love an addict, you… Continue reading Loving an Addict in Recovery – 5 Ways to Rebuild Your Relationship

Fear and Love: Adult Peek-a-boo

We scare each other all the time. It begins with passionate love, or tentative like, warm comfy sensations from being hugged, or mind igniting sparks from stimulating conversation. We feel attracted, interested, curious, pulled--and into the gap between two human beings we fall. At first it's nice. We feel held, supported, lifted. We experience a shared… Continue reading Fear and Love: Adult Peek-a-boo